How I’m Learning to Be Still

I’m probably the last person that would typically write a post like this. While I’m good at reacting during a crisis, I’ll be the first to admit, sometimes day-to-day stressors just get to me, especially when it seems like so many of them keep piling, one on top of the other. Probably one of the toughest lessons I’ve had to learn spiritually is to just be still. Probably the toughest thing I’ve had to learn to do while pregnant is to wait on God.

Let’s face it, waiting on anything is not my strong suit…I think growing up in America has taught me to be very self-reliant and impatient. After all, this is the land of drive-thru’s and self-checkout lines. This is an area that I have to submit to the Lord – oh, and didn’t I mention, I’m not so great at submission either. I’ve always worked a job…since before I’ve had a work permit…in college I worked 3 jobs to make ends meet, and try to pay school bills. Can anyone relate?

Be Still

It happened this week, as I was reading some Scriptures – have you ever been unable to get a really convicting verse out of your head until you read that passage? Well, I couldn’t turn my brain off until I began to read Psalm 46. Verse 10 says, “Be still and know that I am God.” The words “be still” struck me in a new way. I thought, “But I don’t know how to be still.”

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5 Things You Should Know Before Hiring a Coach or Trainer

Today is Thoughtful Thursday! I’ve gotten lots of emails this month about people wanting to know how they can get a wellness coach or personal trainer to work with them. Maybe you have a trainer or coach, well this post is still for you. Here are 5 pointers on how to gain/maintain a very valuable relationship and will tell you what to look for in a coach or a trainer. Also know that if your trainer or coach doesn’t listen your concerns at all or is constantly tardy/unprofessional, it might be time to look for another one. When you hire a fitness professional, this is what you’re getting into.

1. Understand that your trainer/coach has invested many hours, and in the case of the very experienced trainer, years in order to help their clients reach their goals. I know some trainers do have ego issues, but if yours is someone who has possibly gone to college for their education, (like I have), do not ask them if their price points and then get all sulky and non-committal when they tell you. A good trainer is certainly not free. What if you spent hours on the job only to discover that you weren’t getting paid because your boss didn’t feel like they wanted to pay your wages? That’s what I thought. Respect your trainer’s time and investment, and I assure you, they will respect yours. Know that if you want to reach your dream goals and beyond, you will have to spend money. “A dream without a plan of action and committment is just a wish.”

2.  Be teachable. Ok, so no one knows your body like you do. Understand this…there is a major difference between muscle soreness and real pain. “Unless you have real pain, do not complain.” Tell the truth about your limitations, and a qualified trainer/coach will understand and honor them, but complaning because you don’t like to get on the mat and do planks, when you have the physical ability to do planks doesn’t count. Yes, we will try to prescribe exercises you like, but there’s a very good reason to why we chose the exercises that we did. There is a science to this.  Because we care, we push you. Why did you hire a trainer? Because they have a skill set you need in order to reach your goals.  My policy is, “Praise in public, reprimand in private.” Also if you have a trainer, you don’t like their communication style, settle that with them before you complain to a different trainer and say you’re going to commit to them. A good coach/trainer  will provide you access/opportunities to resources that will empower you and not make you and not make your dependent on them.

3. If you’ve found a trainer, coach you love. Support their business by giving specific referrals.Write a review for their website. They have to pay bills too. I have a client/graduate  whoehas fed me referrals for 2 solid years, and I’m eternally  grateful to her. When I was putting my hubby through school, and money was super tight, those referrals were the reason I had business in the slow times.

4. If  we tell you we use a product, and you see results, then it’s safe to assume that we’re not just affiliated with that product for the money….it works for us….who better to get a product recommendation from right…? Trainers are the hardest  sells of all, and good trainers know what goes into a product and why it works for them. You didn’t ask because it was cheap…you asked because it works…

5. Be on time and always confirm your attendance for sessions and classes. You would be mad if you invested hours of time into your wedding, and all you got from potential guests were “maybe’s”. The same is true of your trainer/coach. Don’t waste their time. Most gyms and trainers have an attendance policy…mine is two no-show’s and you’re off my roster…permanently. This problem is so bad in my area that I decided to do online coaching and not waste my gas or put miles on my car. If you’re going to be late, then call if possible. We understand emergencies come up…but “I don’t feel like it.” doesn’t count. A biblical principle I try to live by is “Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no'”.

I hope this post helps you understand the committments involved in finding the right trainer/coach for you. These points are written based on real-life experience, and what I look for in my clients. In other words,  follow the golden rule. I understand that there are “shark” trainers out there, and  they give the rest of us a bad wrap, but I try to walk with integrity with my clients, and I know many other trainers who try to do the same. This post was written on their behalf. πŸ™‚

Thanks for listening as always!

 
– Julie
  P.S.
Curious about what Julie does for her workouts?

Thoughtful, Thankful Thursday!

I’m back!!! After taking a week off for vacation, it’s not so nice to be back in the swing of things….to be honest, it’s one of those seasons where, “The testing of your faith produces patience.” And, quite frankly, I don’t know how much more testing I can take! Just keeping it real. However, I’m thankful for the time my husband and I had away from everything…because we don’t get to be on  our own time clock a lot. It was a really great chance to get to see one of my friends and coaches, Rhonda and her mom, Tina. You see, Micah and I haven’t had any money to travel until the past few months…I mean…zilch funds. We’ve been paying off debt, and really working on trying to prioritize different areas, so that one day, we can just get up and go, without dealing with the stress of finances; it’s not easy, but totally worth it. This week, I had a workout post planned for Wednesday, but decided to focus inward, not outward.

At Pearson’s Falls, NC

This week I’m thankful for:
1. Our yard getting bush-hogged – because it’s a jungle out there….LOL
2. My brother-in-law, Nate’s fiance,Amanda, moving into town!

3. My awesome Mom’s upcoming visit in 3 weeks!
4. A beautiful time in Greenville and the mountains
5. My challenger, Jennifer, who lost 9 inches in the past month!
6. My upline Ruthie, who always pushes me, and sent me a really great care package from vegas! πŸ™‚ That was so wonderful to come home to from vacation!
7. Thankful for my husband who’s always willing to try new things…like risking looking not-so-graceful while going contra dancing. πŸ™‚

Love my new fit swag! Softest t-shirt ever!

What are you thankful for? Comment below! P.S. Stay tuned for tomorrow’s sponsored post, featuring a delicious review! πŸ˜‰

– Julie Auler

Liebster Awards, and the blogs I’m nominating

Hi Everyone,

 It’s Tuesday, and it’s been a whirlwind of a week!
I looked on one of the comments on my “About Me” page and saw that I was nominated by Kimberly Cox – Adventures of But Mom, for a Liebster award! Liebster means “beloved” in German, and I am very honored to be nominated by her!
Here’s my answers to the questions she asked:

   1. What is your favorite smell? the smell of Micah’s aftershave…make me feel snuggly πŸ™‚
   2. Where do you see yourself this time next year? Traveling, finishing another degree, working from home writing and coaching full-time, and teaching the formats I love, and continuing to do worship ministry with Micah, and maybe planning to have our first child. πŸ™‚
    3. How many licks does it take to get to the tootsie roll center of a tootsie pop? (Just kidding) hahaha. To infinity…and beyond!
    Ok, seriously (well as serious as this blog gets anyway) What is one cause you support & believe in? I really believe James 1:27 – standing for the vulnerable….society pushes that you must be the toughest, fastest, and the strongest…but Jesus rescued those who were social outcasts, and changed their lives forever.
    4. What is your favorite blog post you have written? Probably the one on goal setting, and planning…we all see fitness ads and think we want something, but waste so much time because we’d rather take shortcuts and not invest….I was preaching to myself too in that post. http://gracelaceandiron.blogspot.com/2014/03/monday-motivation-setting-goals.html
   5. What is your favorite season? Autumn, like late September and early to mid October.
   6. Rain or Snow? Snow…I love to ski and sled
   7. What is your favorite sandwich?grilled chicken, hummus, and mini peppers on a g-free wrap
   8. What is your favorite childhood memory? Standing on the handlebars of my Dad’s bicycle while he pedaled, and I hung on to his neck. (Not my mom’s favorite.)
   9. Favorite vacation spot? Holden Beach, NC or Bradenton, FL….can’t decide
  10.Favorite SuperHero? Captain America
    (since #3 doesn’t count)
  11.What is the best part of blogging? Meeting new people, trying new things,  and being blessed with the opportunity to make a positive difference in people’s lives!

Now it’s my turn to pay it forward!
These people have blogs that inspire me, and I love reading their latest posts!.

1. Alicia Orozco – Never Ever Been Skinny
2. Melissa Gaines-Mow – Forever Fitting In
3. Kimberly Job – Sublime Reflection
4. Natasha –  Epic Mommy Adventures
5. Annie Brees – Strong Brees
6. Diatta Harris – Femme Fitale
7. Jen Avellaneda – Rich Faith Rising
8. Cynthia Pickett-Steele – You Signed Up For What!
9. Cathy –  A Peek Into My Paradise
10. Tela – Sweet Southern T

Thank you, Ladies for what you do for your fellow bloggers and your genuineness!  I look forward to reading many more awesome posts! πŸ™‚ Who inspires you?

Monday Motivation: Stepping Out; Being Brave

The next 21 days are important for Micah and I. We’re taking some time to seriously pray about the next steps we’re supposed to take in certain areas of our lives. He’s just finished school, and needs a job, so we’re praying that the right doors are opened up for him, and about my return to school. I start filling out applications in the next few days, and I’m excited, yet nervous. Nutrition is no easy peasy degree, and after that, I want to go to grad school. I’ve also been praying about singing classically on a pro level again, which thrills and terrifies me at the same time! These are just a few of the decisions we are going to be making personally during this next year. This isn’t about a wish list. It’s about the desires God’s put in my heart, and the desire to be brave enough to step out in faith. Ooooh that’s a tough one for me. I like my comfort zone. But I know the more I push, the more He’s going to pull me out of that zone. Faith is an action, not a feeling! I pray with expectation, knowing that sometimes, God doesn’t need to change my surroundings, He needs to change me. What do you need to step out in faith on? It could be relationships, finances, health, or whatever. Start preparing yourself by developing an “attitude of gratitude”. Flexibility in situations is something that I need to work on. So, I’m taking steps to learn to control how stressed I become when these situations arise.This is a great quote by Jim Elliot.If you’ve never read Through the Gates of Splendor you should. There is an incredible story behind this man’s family and the lives they changed for God forever.

See you soon!