Why I Think Twice Before Taking a Selfie

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So, before you start thinking of me as raining on your parade. Just hear me out.

When I say selfies, I’m talking about a pic of you and you only that pretty much has no other purpose but to show off your lip gloss or eye liner. Not that these pics aren’t fun once in a while, but let’s be honest: what is your purpose in taking those pics? Is it to portray an image? Do you have something to prove?

Let me provide an example:

I’m the owner of this blog, and like all bloggers should, I have an instagram. I’ve recently been leaning out after losing the baby weight, and I also do product reviews from time to time. So I take the occasional selfie, of me using a brand’s product, or make the occasional 30-second workout video. When I do this, I’m hoping to inspire someone to live a healthier lifestyle. The other day, I got a comment from a moderately famous instagram page, basically saying, “We love your page; please follow ours”, so I of course went to their instagram, but I didn’t follow them, and here’s why.

Even thought the title claimed that they were trying to inspire people… instead, I saw post after post of obviously airbrushed “selfies” of women who all looked like Cindy Crawford wannabes, and the camera shots were more suggestive than inspiring. Needless to say, I did not and will not like their page.

So that’s an extreme selfie example, but my point is that their reason for taking these pics was probably more to pressure a certain look or image on young women.

As a mother of an extremely young daughter, I don’t have the time or energy to devote to trying to make sure I look picture perfect all the time. If I took a selfie everyday, most days, it would look like I went ten rounds, and hey, I teach boot camp classes, so that’s probably not too far off.

Use that camera to capture memories with your loved ones and then use it when you’re bored on occasion.

I’m not trying to bash my young mommy friends or gal pals, in fact I LOVE seeing pregnant selfies , and technically, there’s at least two people in that picture. 🙂

Weight loss selfies can be done in a way to encourage others.

I’m just saying that when I see a news feed full of selfies, it implies, that either a person is self-focused or the makeup filters imply that their not happy with who God made them to be. I’m not saying that the occasional selfie is harmful, but I DO think that constantly trying to look perfect or put forth and image is bad for us gals’ mental and spiritual health. When we constantly give into the selfie craze, we feed into the lie that we have to compare… Listen to me, that creates mean girls…and guys But don’t take my word for it, here’s what the American Psychological Association has to say.

You can read the summary of one of the studies related to selfies and narcissism in Psychology Today. The study found that narcissists tended to take certain types of selfies, not to commemorate an event, but simply to try to achieve the perfect look.

 

What is narcissism? Narcissism is “excessive and obsessive self-interest in oneself and/or one’s physical appearance”. Basically meaning that a narcissist will try to squash or neglect anything that doesn’t put their self-interest first.

 

What does Scripture say? “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Phil. 2:4

Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what the will of God is, His good pleasing, perfect will.”

 

Please don’t take this as condemnation, but know that I’m looking at those who are in my general age group, and the selfish behavior I’m seeing astounds me. I feel like more women are insecure now than ever before, and I don’t think that I personally, should make it a constant pattern to post stuff that comes across at self-glorifying. Confidence is great, but pride comes before a fall.

 

Most importantly, spend that time taking pics and creating memories with the ones you love. If you’re spending time taking selfies, when you should be paying attention to those around you, there may be a problem. Anyway, that’s my food for thought.

 

You were fearfully and wonderfully made, and that’s a truth needs no filter.

 

Love,

Julie